Friday, 11 December 2015

Husband of Woman Murdered in Paris Attacks Tells Terrorists: 'You Will Not Have My Hatred'

What would you do if you were to wake up to a reality that someone has mercilessly taken the life of your beloved one? It hard to accept and the pain may last forever. 

In the midst of the Paris attacks, a man lost his wife in the attacks and wrote a letter to the killers. From the letter we can derive a great lesson on how we too can handle handle hatred.
You Will Not Have My Hatred'
You Will Not Have My Hatred'
The husband of a woman murdered during the recent terror attacks in Paris, France reportedly wrote a letter to the extremists responsible for the attacks, calling the attackers "dead souls."

The man, Antoine Leiris, lost his wife, Hélène Muyal, during the Paris terror attacks that killed 129 people last Friday.

Muyal was one of the concertgoers attending an Eagles of Death Metal concert at the Bataclan concert hall.

"On Friday evening you stole the life of an exceptional person, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hatred," Leiris' letter, posted to Facebook,reads.

"I don't know who you are and I don't want to know, you are dead souls. If this God for whom you kill blindly made us in his image, every bullet in the body of my wife is a wound in his heart," the husband continued.

"So no, I will not give you the satisfaction of hating you. You want it, but to respond to hatred with anger would be to give in to the same ignorance that made you what you are," the letter adds.

The grieving man's viral letter comes after a video showing a father explaining the terror attack to his son went viral.

In the video, the preschool-aged boy is asking his father about why the terror attacks were committed and why people are laying flowers and candles in mourning.

The father explains to the boy that the flowers and candles are being laid "to remember the people who are gone yesterday."

This is an opportunity for us to learn not to live with hatred within our own lives.

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"OIL OR NO OIL"...How To Live With Your Neighbours,

Unlike prophet Emmanuel Makandiwa who prophesied abundant "OIL" deposits in Zimbabwe, I will be taking you through simple and humble tips on how to live with your neighbors. After all it is not the "OIL" that matters at the end of the day. It is the people around you who feel what you feel.

Popular Zim Dancehall Music Producer Dr Clarence (on the left) Is My Neighbor. We are Pictured Here Doing A Mushroom Trial Run At Home. 
I am grateful that I live with neighbors from different cultural background. Some are difficult but I still smile at them and I am glad to say I am in good books with them. I never look at my neighbors with suspicion. I know that I am also a neighbour in their eyes. Of course there are some who will always be difficult, but i do appreciate them anyway.

I thought it very reasonable to share with you what normally would be no writer's interest. It is tips on how to be a good neighbour and live in peace with your fellow neighbors.

Perform Small Acts Of Kindness,

Help your neighbour with their DIY. (Yes Its meant to be a Do It Yourself) But help them anyway. I regularly travel between the city and my farm. So I normally bring them compost and manure for their gardens. I help them with their gardening.

I also do have a lot of basic tools which I freely use together with my neighbors.

Greet Your Neighbors
Make an effort to always stop by to greet your neighbors and find out how they are doing. Do this with a smiling face knowing full well that you benefit for being friendly to people. Never underestimate the power of greeting a neighbour.

I have discovered that most people now don't even greet. They just wave and say things in their hearts. I encourage you to go out there and greet people around you. An open hand ready to help will find it easy to greet and shake hands.

What are the Benefits?
When your neighbors feel appreciated they will feel great. Out of good gestures can lifelong friendships be born. The whole reason why you are around your neighbors is on purpose. You are not there by mistake but by divine connection.

Do it More and regularly
Be kind to everyone around you. Do it for all your neighbors. In times of difficulties it pays to be friendly to everyone. This goes beyond religion. Love people naturally. Go beyond race, color or religion.

Be grateful for the neighbors you have. Remember you are also a neighbour!

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Effective Tools To Fight Unkindness

We all wish for the elusive ideal world where everyone is kind to one another. The level of kindness in humanity is fast dwindling into thin air. We are much more concerned about the ozone layer (which we don't quite fully understand) instead of focusing on the simple acts of kindness that could change this world.

When we are kind, we see the beauty in others.
Perform An Act Of Kindness Today.

Organisations such as Random Acts Of Kindness were formed to try and teach people to be kind towards each other.

But what is kindness? Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. This is a quality. A measure of excellence which in my opinion is learnt over a long period of time. It is a refinement of a person which I believe should be taught from very tender ages.
I found out that one of the ways in which we can learn kindness is to find ourselves in a place we've never been and where we don't know the language. This will definitely push us to the boundaries. We are reduced to simple persons who are prepared to learn to be friendly, generous and considerate. When I travelled away from my country for the first time, I found myself around people who spoke languages that I had no clue about. I did not understand anything about what they were doing and I was reduced to an effective listener. I knew that my life depended on effective listening and following instructions.
Putting ourselves in situations that open our eyes and minds is essential to human development.
It shatters stereotypes and leads us into the path of learning to be kind to one another.

Let us today start learning the art of being kind. I have used three words as per the dictionary definition to help us learn to be kind.

Friendliness
Learn to be friendly to someone you don't know. Teach your children and other people to be friendly. At times word of mouth is not enough to encourage people to be friendly. You have to take action to be friendly.

Generosity.
To be generous requires enjoyment of being free from meanness or smallness of mind. be selfless and share the little that you have with a stranger. I am not asking for money ladies and gentlemen. Even sharing of ideas and encouragement is generosity in itself. The joy of giving is enormous. When we freely give we empower ourselves to greater levels of possibilities.

Considerate
Let us all be careful not to inconvenience or harm others. We are all God creation and each one of us is on a special mission. We all have a special purpose. Sometime our minds gets clouded in intense competition of business and excellence and we forget to be considerate. When you encounter others always be humble.

I have always expressed myself to people around me that I am not in competition with anyone at all. I am on a special mission and one day when I am gone, I would desire to have left a name associated with kindness.

Always be kind and see the beauty in others.

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Born For The Sky

Here is a little story (of unknown origin) that helps to illustrate a difficulty that many people will face at some time in their life.


A man found an eagle's egg and put it in the nest of a barnyard hen. The eagle hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life, the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he thrashed his wings and flew a few feet in the air.

Born for the sky
Born for the sky
Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong, golden wings.

The old eagle looked up in awe, "Who's that?" he asked. "That's the eagle, the king of birds," said one of the hens. "He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth - we're chickens."
So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that is what he thought he was.
My friend, you too were born for the sky. As a unique human being, you have, deep within yourself, a burning desire to achieve something with your life. But for many people, the reality is that they get so caught-up in the daily-grind of trying to make a living, that they never really discover that desire and so they end up living their entire lives like the "chicken"

What the "chicken" really needed was to discover that he really was an eagle; and then he would have been able to begin to learn how to fly (even eagles need to learn); and eventually he would learn how to soar.

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6 Wrong Ways To Leave A Church

I live in an area where churches are sprouting like mushroom. Obviously the new churches are getting their members from people leaving other churches. I have left a church before and really believe this article will help you should you ever make a decision to leave your church. It is interesting to note that there is a church every five hundred metres in any direction where I reside.

Some of the prophets and apostles founding these churches are aggressive in their search for members and will do anything possible to gain your trust at the expense of your integrity. 
Walter Magaya owns PHD Ministries

1. Don't leave mad.

If you are leaving because you are angry at the pastor or another member, you are proving your immaturity. Offense is never a reason to leave a church. Jesus told us to go to the person who offends us (Matt. 18:15). And Proverbs 19:11 says: "The discretion of a man defers his anger, and it is his glory to pass over a transgression." If you break a relationship every time you are offended, you will never grow up. Even if you are called to leave a church, you should never hold a grudge. Have the courage to face your offense and disarm it.

2. Don't leave and make threats.

Some people get so angry, they want to hurt the church when they leave. They want the pastor to suffer. One man told a pastor I know that he hoped the church would go bankrupt after he stopped tithing to it. (Instead, God sent other people whose donations more than covered the lost income!) Romans 12:19 says, "Beloved, do not avenge yourselves." Even if the pastor or church members are doing inappropriate things, it is not your job to punish them.

3. Don't leave secretly.

When I was a boy, my mother taught me to say: "I enjoyed my meal. May I be excused?" when I finished eating. I was not allowed to leave the table without this announcement. A similar rule applies to leaving a church. It's rude to walk out with no explanation. Your pastor deserves to know why. You can write a letter, but it's better to say it in person—and to include some words of thanks for the way the church has helped you in the past.

4. Don't leave and talk about it on social media.

Proverbs 6:19 says God hates the one who "sows discord among brethren." Those are strong words! Some people actually think they are doing God's work by badmouthing a pastor, but they are digging a ditch that they will soon fall into. Keep your judgments to yourself. Posting the details of your rant on Facebook only shows how petty and self-centered you are.

5. Don't leave and try to take others with you.

If God is calling you to switch churches, that's fine. God will bless your transition if you do it in a healthy way. But if you try to stage a massive walkout, you are undermining God's authority. Don't allow the enemy to use you as an agent of division.

6. Don't leave and stay away from church altogether. 

I have often heard people say they feel God is leading them to leave a church to go elsewhere. But then I find out, after three years, that "elsewhere" really meant "nowhere." They quit church altogether! This is usually a sign of either deep disappointment or an unresolved conflict. You should never, ever give up on church. It is God's family. No Christian should live in isolation.

Obviously there are times when we must leave a church. It happens because of job transfers, family issues, ministry preferences, driving distance and many other reasons. And some churches have unresolved problems that make them unhealthy—and God does not necessarily require us to stay there. The Holy Spirit is the one who directs us to the right congregation.

Good pastors know they cannot hold onto people in a possessive way. Healthy churches remind people that the exit door is unlocked, and that members are free to go as the Holy Spirit leads. Deuteronomy 28:6 says: "You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out." Pastors should bless people who leave—but members should leave in a respectful way that invites that blessing.

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Actor Denzel Washington Says God 'Always Had Faith in Him'

Actor Denzel Washington has spoken about the experience in his walk with God, saying at a recent function God has always had faith in him.

Washington, has never been shy in expressing his Christian faith, made his comments at a recent function by the Church of God in Christ in St. Louis, Missouri.
Denzel Washington
Denzel Washington 
"There's never been a time where God didn't direct, protect, and correct me," Washington said at the annual event. "There may have been times where I was less than faithful to him, but he had faith in me."

Washington has spoken out about his Christian faith before, previously telling GQ Magazine that he reads the Bible daily, adding that such an activity isn't difficult, as he is the son of a pastor.

"I read from the Bible every day, and I read my Daily Word," Washington said, adding that his preacher father "wasn't a taskmaster, but there were certain things you couldn't do."

"He had his own church, and it was a long Sunday, because you had to be there all day," the actor added.

"Everyone I grew up with didn't have a father," he continued. "I had a father. My father was a decent man. He was a very spiritual man and a gentleman."

The well-known actor also made his faith known during a graduation ceremony speech at Dillard University back in May, where he told students to "put God first."

"Number one: Put God first," he said. "Put God first in everything you do."

"Everything you think you see in me, everything I've accomplished, everything you think I have – and I have a few things," said Washington. "Everything that I have is by the grace of God. Understand that. It's a gift."

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Billy Graham: Of Course God Cares About Politics

I feel pain when my religious brothers and sisters become so religious to an extent of leaving the politicians to decide the nature of political environment in which we exist. My heart bleeds when I hear prominent men and women of influence tell people who follow them that politics is for the politicians and not for the religious.

Does Politics matter to God? Read how Billy Graham responded to a question on Politics.
Be The Change You Want To See
Be The Change You Want To See

Q:
I know the elections are still many months away, but I'm already tired of all the name-calling and the overblown rhetoric. I've decided just to shut my mind to it all. I don't think God really cares about politics anyway, does He?

A: God cares about everything that affects our lives—including who our leaders will be and how our society will be governed. That's one reason why He commanded us to pray for our government and its leaders. Would He have told us to do this if He didn't care about good government? Of course not. The Bible says, "I exhort first of all that you make supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings for everyone, for kings and for all who are in authority" (1 Tim. 2:1-2).

Many readers probably can sympathize with your attitude toward too much rhetoric or too many ads. But don't let these blind you to the importance of our elections or cause you to shut your mind to our nation's need for honest and able leaders. Our system may not be perfect, but it's far better than that in many other nations.

Pray for our nation, especially as we look forward to elections a year from now. Pray especially that God will raise up leaders who will stand for justice and morality, and will seek God's will in all they do.

Pray too that our nation will turn to God, and that we may experience true spiritual revival. Increasingly we seem to be pushing God out of our lives as a nation—and this will have tragic consequences. Don't let this happen to you, but make sure of your commitment to Christ and seek to follow Him every day. The Bible's standard is still true: "Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord" (Ps. 33:12).

Ignacy J. Paderewski: The Essence Of Helping Others

How often do you do good to people you don't know? The following story made me look at myself and and ask questions. Here is a real life story that inspired me to take a new line of thinking regarding people who need help from me.

In 1892 at Stanford University:

An 18-year-old student was struggling to pay his fees. He was an orphan, and not knowing where to turn for money, he came up with a bright idea. He and a friend decided to host a musical concert on campus to raise money for their education.
 Ignacy J. Paderewski
 Ignacy J. Paderewski
They reached out to the great pianist Ignacy J. Paderewski. His manager demanded a guaranteed fee of $2000 for the piano recital. A deal was struck and the boys began to work to make the concert a success.

The big day arrived. But unfortunately, they had not managed to sell enough tickets. The total collection was only $1600. Disappointed, they went to Paderewski and explained their plight. They gave him the entire $1600, plus a cheque for the balance $400. They promised to honour the cheque at the soonest possible.

“No,” said Paderewski. “This is not acceptable.” He tore up the cheque, returned the $1600 and told the two boys: “Here’s the $1600. Please deduct whatever expenses you have incurred. Keep the money you need for your fees. And just give me whatever is left”. The boys were surprised, and thanked him profusely.

It was a small act of kindness. But it clearly marked out Paderewski as a great human being.
Why should he help two people he did not even know? We all come across situations like these in our lives. And most of us only think “If I help them, what would happen to me?” 
Herbert Hoover
Herbert Hoover
Paderewski later went on to become the Prime Minister of Poland. He was a great leader, but unfortunately when the World War began, Poland was ravaged. There were more than 1.5 million people starving in his country, and no money to feed them. Paderewski did not know where to turn for help. He reached out to the US Food and Relief Administration for help.He heard there was a man called Herbert Hoover — who later went on to become the US President. Hoover agreed to help and quickly shipped tons of food grains to feed the starving Polish people.

A calamity was averted. Paderewski was relieved. He decided to go across to meet Hoover and personally thank him. When Paderewski began to thank Hoover for his noble gesture, Hoover quickly interjected and said, “You shouldn’t be thanking me Mr. Prime Minister. You may not remember this, but several years ago, you helped two young students go through college. I was one of them.”
The world is a wonderful place. What goes around comes around, pls help others, God will definitely help you.

Thank you for reading and God bless you!

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Sadistic Christian Psychotherapist Who Breastfed Her Clients ‘Mummy Milk’ Jailed For Four Years

Can you imagine a "born again adult Christian", suckling a 63 year old lady's breasts? Yes it happened when a Christian cult leader and psychotherapist forced her clients to suckle her breast for ‘mummy milk’.

Vanessa Clark, 63, has been jailed for four years for the ‘unusual and troubling’ offences which happened between 1996 and 2001.

The assaults were carried out solely on women with mental illness and saw Clark regressing them back to infancy during sessions in her flat.

The sessions, which cost stupefied clients thousands of pounds, featured ‘skin to skin’ contact – a method she claimed had been approved by a priest who had long since died – as well as breastfeeding.

Prosecutor Henry James told Oxford Crown Court about one case in 1996 when one victim was recommended to Clark ‘through a church connection’.

He explained: ‘This amounted to an intense and personal series of sessions in which the victim was required to regress back to her childhood.

‘Her hands and legs became fidgety and she was told that this was her body “trying to get mother to lactate”.
‘Ms Clarke then asked her client, “Does baby want some milk?” She then guided her victim towards her breasts who took them into her mouth.’

She ‘massaged’ a second woman until the victim became aroused, before telling her this was her ‘inner baby’ coming out and she ‘needed it’.
The white-haired psychotherapist gave her clients milk from her breast (Picture: INS)
The white-haired psychotherapist gave her clients milk from her breast (Picture: INS)
Another occasion saw the same victim being asked to revert back to this childhood state, before Clark took off her top and said: ‘Have some mummy milk.’


The victim was also encouraged to imagine Biblical imagery in the form of the story of Adam and Eve before Clark massaged the woman’s back and undid her bra.

Mr James said: ‘Ms Clark would then massage the woman’s foot before pushing her own foot into the victims groin. Clark would then press her own groin against the victim when she greeted her.’

Clark, of New Yatt Road in New Yatt, Oxon., admitted her crimes in a letter to her female partner which was read out to the court.

It read: ‘I was grooming them to get power over them. I set out to get under their skin so they would become fixated on me.

‘I would breastfeed my clients and on one occasion took off my top before [the victim] consented, and told her it was a special thing I would do only for her.

‘It was entirely deceptive and manipulative. I made them them envision extremely violent visualisations of torture.

‘When [the victim] wanted to stop I insisted on going on. I gave no thought to her or her vulnerability. I subjected her to my sadistic desires.

‘I exerted great will and domination over her.’

Clark’s crimes were exposed when her partner, who had been with her for seven years, became concerned about Clark’s talk of rape, torture and murder and contacted one of her clients.

Clients were referred to Clark by the leader of a Christian cult, which she had once been the leader of herself. Little is known about the cult or how many people belonged to it.

Summing up, Judge Ian Pringle said: ‘You have for many years practised as a psychotherapist. It is clear from the letters I have read that for many people you have provided a valuable service…

‘I have read much about you, and a doctor has come to the conclusion that you suffer from a personality disorder. As a result you lack empathy and it makes you manipulative.’

Clark admitted to six counts of indecent assault. As well as beginning her prison sentence, she has been made subject to a Sexual Harm Prevention Order and was placed on the sex offenders’ register for the rest of her life.
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Dear Church, Here’s Why People Are REALLY Leaving You

Being on the other side of the Exodus sucks, doesn’t it? We have seen a lot, yes quite a lot from you Church. From a pastor who made his congregants drink petrol to Sadistic Christian psychotherapist who breastfed her clients ‘mummy milk’, we have seen it all. 

The panic on the Church's face is clearly visible for all to see.
Why the Church should be saying, “It’s not you, it’s me.”
Why the Church should be saying, “It’s not you, it’s me.”
I know the internal terror as you see the statistics and hear the stories and scan the exit polls.

I see you desperately scrambling to do damage control for the fence-sitters and manufacture passion from the shrinking faithful, and I want to help you.

You may think you know why people are leaving you, but I’m not sure you do.

You think it’s because “the culture” is so lost, so perverse, so beyond help that they are all walking away.
You believe that they’ve turned a deaf ear to the voice of God; chasing money, and sex, and material things.
You think that the gays and the Muslims and the Atheists and the pop stars have so screwed up the morality of the world that everyone is abandoning faith in droves.

But those aren’t the reasons people are leaving you.

They aren’t the problem, Church.

You are the problem.

Let me elaborate in five ways …

1. Your Sunday productions have worn thin.

The stage, and the lights, and the bands, and the video screens, have all just become white noise to those really seeking to encounter God. They’re ear and eye candy for an hour, but they have so little relevance in people’s daily lives that more and more of them are taking a pass.
Yeah the songs are cool and the show is great, but ultimately Sunday morning isn’t really making a difference on Tuesday afternoon or Thursday evening, when people are wrestling with the awkward, messy, painful stuff in the trenches of life; the places where rock shows don’t help.

We can be entertained anywhere. Until you can give us something more than a Christian-themed performance piece; something that allows us space and breath and conversation and relationship, many of us are going to sleep in and stay away.

2. You speak in a foreign tongue.

Church, you talk and talk and talk, but you do so using a dead language. You’re holding on to dusty words that have no resonance in people’s ears, not realizing that just saying those words louder isn’t the answer. All the religious buzzwords that used to work 20 years ago no longer do.

This spiritualized insider-language may give you some comfort in an outside world that is changing, but that stuff’s just lazy religious shorthand, and it keeps regular people at a distance. They need you to speak in a language that they can understand. There’s a message there worth sharing, but it’s hard to hear above your verbal pyrotechnics.

People don’t need to be dazzled with big, churchy words and about eschatological frameworks and theological systems. Talk to them plainly about love, and joy, and forgiveness, and death, and peace, and God, and they’ll be all ears. Keep up the church-speak, and you’ll be talking to an empty room soon.

3. Your vision can’t see past your building.

The coffee bar, the cushy couches, the high tech lights, the funky Children’s wing and the uber-cool Teen Center are all top-notch … and costly. In fact, most of your time, money and energy seems to be about luring people to where you are, instead of reaching people where they already are.

Rather than simply stepping out into the neighborhoods around you and partnering with the amazing things already happening, and the beautiful stuff God is already doing, you seem content to franchise out your particular brand of Jesus-stuff and wait for the sinful world to beat down your door.

Your greatest mission field is just a few miles (or a few feet) off your campus and you don’t even realize it. You wanna reach the people you’re missing?

Leave the building.

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5 Ways To Respond When The Person You Love Humiliates You

All relationships do sometimes face challenges. Viral DotComs launches a campaign to share some of the ways on how we can respond to relationship challenges. It is possible for any challenges to be resolved. No matter how big they are. It all takes willingness and patience.

5 Ways To Respond When The Person You Love Humiliates You
5 Ways To Respond When The Person You Love Humiliates You

Do not let their cruel or careless comment slide!

Does your husband or wife regularly make jokes at your expense, or take cheap-shots at you in front of others? ... It hurts, doesn't it? It can feel earth-shaking and downright humiliating when your partner puts you down (however playfully) in front co-workers, family or friends.

Regardless of your culture, socio-demographics, income, religion, or the fact that this behavior is common among millions of couples, your feelings still matter. And the behavior is not OK if it doesn't feel OK to you.

So what does this behavior look like? Whether followed with "I'm just kidding. Don't take everything so seriously!" or just hurled at you outright with no attempt to cover it up, this is often what your partner's potshots often sound like:
  • Sharing your embarrassing moments: "You should have seen her on the day we went to my boss’s house for dinner. She tripped going up the front steps, tore her dress, scraped her face — What a mess! I was mortified."
  • Comments about your body or looks: "Why did you wear those pants?" or "Oh, she didn't go in the pool on vacation; she's still trying to lose all that baby weight she's still carrying around." 
  • Openly comparing you to someone else's better spouse: "You're so lucky to have a husband who's so attentive and actually communicates like an adult." 
  • Criticizing you in front of the kids: "Ignore your mother! Did she tell you that? That’s ridiculous! Go back and tell her Daddy said, 'Yes'!" 

When scenarios like the ones above happen, you don't have to shrug it off and act like it doesn't hurt you. Of course, the common response to your protests is typically "Oh, you're too sensitive."

Here's a better way to deal with stinging comments that make you feel humiliated or put down:

1. Identify your own feelings.


It's important to clarify your own perception of the situation — the thoughts and feelings the get stirred up by your partner's comments. What specifically comes up for you? Are you mad, sad, disappointed, frustrated? The more mindful you are about the specific feelings within yourself, the better you can identify what you need from your partner.

2. Announce your feelings to your partner — don’t act out your feelings


Say clearly, "I am angry!" instead of slamming kitchen cabinets and stomping around the room.

This is key, because your partner is NOT a mind reader. They feel your vibe, but are confused when you say — "Everything’s fine!" — while slamming doors and clearly acting hurt. Avoid giving mixed signals which confuse them. This makes them uncertain of what to say or how to act.

3. Check in with your partner


It's important to find out what their intention was. Were they just trying to have a good time and tell a great story, not thinking about how it might hurt you?

Or, was it deliberately mean-spirited? Are they actually angry at you, so they brought up past hurts and threw them in your face on purpose? Or, did they knowingly bring something up when you've previously agreed not to talk about it?

Find out what they were thinking and why they said what they did. An occasional slip up is one thing, but abuse is a pervasive, consistent and on-going pattern. Abuse is all about power and control over you. Recognize the pattern if you see it.

4. If your partner apologizes, do not say, "that’s OK!"

You just undermined the effort of speaking up for yourself. If it's really OK, why did you raise an issue about it then? Again, this sends mixed messages.

A better response is: "Thank you, I accept your apology," creating a clear premise that your partner must own their actions. When they apologize to you, this better response acknowledges the offending behavior rather than minimizing it's impact on you with a trivializing "it's OK."

5. Truly forgive when it's appropriate to do so

Forgiveness is magical. If you harbor resentment, it just continues to fester and, ultimately, tears down your relationship. Remember to forgive yourself for how you possibly reacted when the comment hurt you, and then also forgive your partner (even if your forgiveness comes in small tiny steps … begin the process).

If any of the above techniques are new to you, try them on for size. It may take a few times to respond this way naturally. Practice over and over.

You don’t have to tell anyone you're changing, just start approaching these situations differently on your own ... with a different attitude (thoughts and feelings) and with a different response. Your quiet shift in a healthier direction might be the only thing needed to prevent this unacceptable behavior from repeating.

And if you need a default reply to keep in your emotional hip pocket ... one to pull out the next time this situation happens, here is one to practice:

"What you just said is NOT OK with me. That was private between us. You said it in front of others. That's a problem and I need us to talk about that."

Most importantly, remember: YOU ARE IMPORTANT (and so are your feelings)! The good newsis that by reading this article, you've already started taking care of yourself.

Here’s Why Good Christians Do Bad Things To Win Converts

Evangelicals wear their religion on T-shirts and around their necks and on car bumpers eye-blacks and even on their wrists. They hand out tracts on college campuses and stage revival meetings almost everywhere. They use weddings and funerals to preach come-to-Jesus sermons. In their resolve to spread the good news that Jesus saves, some also do things that are more morally dubious.

In Tucson, nice young couples cultivate relationships with lonely college students without disclosing that they are paid to engage in “friendship missions.” In Seattle, volunteers woo first- and second-graders to afterschool Good News Clubs that the children are incapable of distinguishing from school-sponsored activities. In Muslim countries, Christian missionaries skirt laws that ban proselytizing by pretending to be mere aid workers, putting genuinely secular aid workers at risk. In the U.S. military, soldiers bully other soldiers into prayer meetings or the Passion of the Christ and then send bizarrely profane emails to people who try to stop them.
Praying Man
Perhaps the most devastating consequence of evangelical zeal in recent decades has been millions of unnecessary deaths in Africa. Many evangelicals saw the HIV epidemic as an opportunity.

“AIDS has created an evangelism opportunity for the body of Christ unlike any in history,” said Ken Isaacs of Samaritan’s Purse. Another group that pursued HIV dollars has its mission built right into its name: Community Health Evangelism. Christian ideology ultimately redirected billions of U. S. aid dollars away from science-based results-oriented interventions such as contraceptive access and safe-sex education and into programs that espoused traditional Christian values: monogamy, evangelism, and compassionate after-the-fact care for the sick.

I spent over 20 years of my life as an evangelical Christian, and during that time these behaviors seemed benign, even laudable to me. Today, as a psychologist who creates resources for former fundamentalists, I find them disturbing. Even so, I am sympathetic to the moral conundrum fundamentalism can cause for genuinely decent people. After I watched the documentary Jesus Camp, a friend commented, “Wasn’t that horrifying?” I had to confess that it seemed kind of, well, normal — and that I could relate to the woman running the camp.

To explain why Christians will sometimes violate their own commitment to compassion or truth in the search for converts, it helps to consider the psychology of fundamentalist religion.

Religion has a set of superpowers—ways it shapes or controls human thinking and behavior. Chief among these is the fact that religions take charge of our moral reasoning and emotions, giving divine sanction to some behaviors and forbidding others. Because there are many kinds of “good,” all of us make moral decisions by weighing values against each other. For example, most parents place a value on not hurting their children and yet get them immunized because long-term health trumps short-term pain. Religion can alter the way we stack those competing values, adding emotional weight to some, removing it from others.

The relationship between religion and morality is complicated. Religion claims credit for our moral instincts. It channels them via specific prescriptions and prohibitions. It offers explanations for why some things feel right and others feel so wrong and why we find the wrong ones tempting. It engages us in stories and rituals that bring moral questions to the fore in day-to-day life. It embeds us in a community that encourages moral conformity and increases altruism toward insiders. It creates the sense that someone is always watching over our shoulder.

When religious edicts align with the quest for love and truth, religion’s power can encourage us to be more compassionate, kind, humble or act with integrity. But religions also assert moral obligations that have little to do with love or truth, harm or wellbeing. Consider, for example, sacramental rituals, pilgrimages, circumcision, veiling, vows of silence or rituals of purity. Some demands of piety have little human or planetary cost. But other times, divine edict compels adherents to do harm in the service of a higher cause that to outsiders simply doesn’t exist. The Aztec and Inca practice of human sacrifice to appease gods was one of these. To outsiders it was a horrifying moral violation; to insiders more analogous to a community vaccination; the young men and women who were sacrificed gave their lives for a greater good—the wellbeing of the whole society.

Since religions add to an adherent’s bucket of moral obligations, they can create moral dilemmas or tradeoffs where none would otherwise exist. Should I spend my days studying Torah or working to feed my children? Should I drive my daughter to the hospital even though it’s Friday? Should I give the little I can spare to the poor or to the nuns? Should I wander with a beggar bowl or help my father tend the fields so my sisters can go to school? Should I encourage my poor African parishioners to wear condoms to prevent HIV or tell them to entrust God with their family planning?

Sometimes the tradeoffs are a matter of life or death, as when Saudi girls may have been forced to remain in their burning school rather than flee unveiled. Or consider the case of a young Arizona mother who had to choose between her own death and the abortion of a 12-week fetus her church deemed a person. She chose to live so she could continue raising the children who waited for her at home. But her bishop, who saw the abortion as premeditated murder, excommunicated a nun who helped her, claiming the more moral path was to allow the death of both woman and fetus as God’s will.

Evangelical Protestants who believe the Bible is the literally perfect word of God take as one of their highest mandates a verse they call the Great Commission. I have seen it emblazoned in letters two feet high on the wall of a megachurch: Go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. (Matthew 28:19, NIV). The word evangel means good news, and the name evangelical identifies Christians whose beliefs center on spreading what they think is the best news ever to reach the human race: that Jesus died for our sins and anyone who believes can be saved from hell. (One of my deep secrets as an evangelical teenager was how much I hated trying to sell other people on the Four Spiritual Laws that laid out the plan of salvation.)

Follow me, says the Jesus of Mark’s Gospel, and I will make you fishers of men. For evangelical Christians, fishing for souls is an obligation that can trump all others. What good does it do to feed the hungry or tend the sick if you leave their souls to eternal torture? Catholic Christians typically believe that good works are of value in their own right. Universalist Christians believe that the death of Jesus on the cross ultimately redeemed all of creation. Modernist Christians believe the Bible is a human document and that the life of Jesus is more important than his death. Evangelical Christians believe they have a moral obligation to proselytize.

Beliefs have consequences, and one consequence of evangelical belief is that decent people end up doing ugly things in order to recruit converts and save souls. It is because they care about being good that they do harm. In the much quoted words of Steven Weinberg, “With or without religion, you would have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things. But for good people to do evil things, that takes religion.” The mechanism by which this happens is that religion creates a narrative in which the evil serves a higher good.

A new book by Mikey Weinstein, No Snowflake in an Avalanche, offers a window into how corrosive the Great Commission can be. It chronicles a harrowing decade in, what is to Weinstein, a fight to the death for religious freedom. You may be familiar with fragments of the story. When fundamentalist Christians at the Air Force Academy began goading and harassing Weinstein’s cadet son, Curtis, they awoke a grizzly bear.

Weinstein assumed at first that the harassment was an anomaly and would be addressed quickly. Alas. The more pressure he applied using his own standing as an Academy graduate and former Reagan administration attorney, the more he uncovered an entrenched network of fundamentalist Christians that ranged from cadets to chaplaincy to brass, and that pressured all others to convert: Clubbish Bible-believing cadets bullied Catholics, Muslims, Jews, nontheists and even mainline Protestants (who, after all, weren’t real Christians to them). Evangelical chaplains brazenly told supporters they were missionaries on the public dime and the armed services was their mission field. Righteous officers pulled rank and pressured subordinates to participate in Bible studies and prayer meetings –and covered up abuses. Middle Easterners complained that America’s troops were Christian crusaders, and outside organizations fanned the flames by providing tracts and Bibles so that combat soldiers could work on converting Iraqi and Afghan civilians.

Livid about violations against the U.S. Constitution and livid about the personal violations and added dangers being endured by America’s soldiers because of the crusade mentality, Weinstein formed the Military Religious Freedom Foundation (MRFF). Since then, thousands of phone calls, letters and emails have poured in from all arms of the services–not only from the academies but from men and women whose lives are on the line in war zones. The MRFF has fought like a cornered lion on their behalf—fierce, muscular and unpredictable—leaving fundamentalist perpetrators convinced that Weinstein and his colleagues are agents of Satan.

As exposure after exposure has demonstrated, the evangelizers are legally in the wrong. They also are in violation of well-established moral and ethical principles including, often, humanity’s most central moral principle, the Golden Rule. They would be outraged if adherents of other religions solicited their children or exploited their collegial relationships in the quest for converts. So why don’t they give it up? They can’t. Their beliefs require that they push as hard as they can to implement their understanding of God’s will.

In recent years, evangelicals have expanded their outreach in the military, public grade schools, “faith-based” community services and international aid programs, leveraging existing structures and secular funding streams when possible to support their work. To qualify for grants or gain access to public facilities, they argue that they are social service providers, not missionaries. From a personnel standpoint they argue that they are churches, exempt from civil rights laws. America’s Supreme Court has been remarkably willing to let them speak out of both sides of their mouths, which means this trend will continue. Evangelical organizations like Officers Christian Fellowship, Child Evangelism Fellowship, Prison Fellowship Ministries and World Vision will proselytize as much as they are allowed to, diverting as many public dollars as they can, because that is what their reading of the Bible demands.

Inside and outside of Christianity, vigorous debate is challenging the pillars of fundamentalist belief, like the idea that the Bible is literally perfect or that Jesus was the ultimate human sacrifice. But the evangelical quest for converts will be constrained only by whatever moral limits the rest of us set.

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Adding Seaweed To Processed Food Could Lower The Risk Of Cardiovascular Disease

WHAT if manufacturers or even consumers added a little seaweed extract to processed food such as pizzas and hot dogs? That is the very serious question asked by a Danish researcher after having noted that potassium-rich seaweed reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease.

Eating seaweed is already very common in some Asian countries, but less so in the West. Now scientists have shown that adding it to processed food is good for our health.
When cooking, seaweed can be added with butter, or in a sauce; it can also replace vegetables or be mixed with flour, suggest Danish researchers.
When cooking, seaweed can be added with butter, or in a sauce; it can also replace vegetables or be mixed with flour, suggest Danish researchers. 
Certain substances contained in seaweed help to reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease, says Ole G. Mouritsen. This professor of biophysics at the University of Southern Denmark, who has written several books on the subject of seaweed in food, is also the joint author of an article on the subject published in the journal Phycologica on Nov 16.

He studied the health effects of 35 different species of seaweed. Because of its nutritional value, edible seaweed is low in calories and is packed with antioxidants, fiber, iodine, polyunsaturated and omega-3 fatty acids. Ole G. Mouritsen says that seaweed's potassium and salt content does not increase blood pressure, unlike a lot of processed food.

Seaweed also delivers umami, which is found in sushi. This Japanese name means the fifth of the basic tastes for humans. It is thought to promote satiety and help regulate food intake by avoiding any addition of sugar, salt or fat.

Dried seaweed can add to the flavor of flour used to make pizza, pasta and bread. Added to meat, it helps to increase the quantity of dietary fiber and antioxidants, and reduce cholesterol levels. Used as a powder, it can even replace table salt.

As it has a long shelf life, dried seaweed can be used for months, even years, without a loss of flavor or aroma.

The researcher and his team say that one of seaweed's main advantages is that it can improve ready-cooked food.

They tested bread containing seaweed on a group of overweight men. The volunteers accepted its taste as long as its content did not exceed 4%. There was an increase in the participants' dietary fiber and they consumed 16.4% less energy over a period of 24 hours.

"We know that many people have difficulty distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy food," the scientist explained. "By adding seaweed to processed foods, we can make food healthier. In many cases, we also get tastier food, and it may also help reduce the risk of cardiovascular diseases."

Professor Mouritsen and his team recommend adding 5-10g of seaweed in dried or granulated form to food each day, although they say it is difficult to determine exactly how much we need to eat to obtain health benefits.

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Sticking To The Same Sleeping Routine Is Good For Our Health

What time do you go to bed? Are you consistent on the time you go to bed and wake up? If possible, it is better to go to bed and get up at the same time during the week and at the weekend, says a new US study which has established a link between changes to sleeping schedules and metabolic disorders.

Difficulty in waking up on Monday morning could mean we are storing up trouble in terms of metabolic disorders and cardiovascular disease.
Deregulation of our circadian rhythms and our sleeping-waking schedules between the week and the weekend could lead to diabetes and cardiovascular disease.
Deregulation of our circadian rhythms and our sleeping-waking schedules between the week and the weekend could lead to diabetes and cardiovascular disease. 
Scientific research has already demonstrated that shift work increases the risk of metabolic disorders. The reason is thought to be the deregulation of our internal circadian clock which drives biological rhythms over a 24-hour day-night cycle and is followed by humans and animals.

Sleep disturbance is one of the factors behind the increase in metabolic disorders such as diabetes and obesity, even in people without health problems, says this study published on Nov 18 in The Journal of Clinical & Endocrinology Metabolism.

A team of researchers from the University of Pittsburgh in Pennsylvania in the US analysed the sleep schedule and the cardio-metabolic risk of 447 men and women, who were participants in phase 2 of the Adult Health and Behaviour Project study.

They were aged between 20 and 54, worked at least 25 hours per week and wore wristbands measuring their movement and sleep 24 hours a day for a week. The volunteers also filled in questionnaires informing the researchers about their dietary habits and physical activity.

The team noted that almost 85% of the participants had a lag in their sleep cycles, waking later on their days off than on workdays, while 15% had a shorter cycle, meaning they woke earlier at the weekend than during the week.

The volunteers with the biggest lag in their sleep schedule between working and non-working days had worse levels of cholesterol, higher insulin resistance, a larger waist measurement and greater BMI (Body Mass Index) compared to the others, the team noted.

This "social jet lag" remained, even when the scientists adjusted for other sleep and lifestyle variables, such as physical activity and caloric intake.

"Social jetlag refers to the mismatch between an individual's biological circadian rhythm and their socially imposed sleep schedules," said Patricia M.Wong, lead author of the study. "Other researchers have found that social jetlag relates to obesity and some indicators of cardiovascular function."

"However, this is the first study to extend upon that work and show that even among healthy, working adults who experience a less extreme range of mismatches in their sleep schedule, social jetlag can contribute to metabolic problems. These metabolic changes can contribute to the development of obesity, diabetes and cardiovascular disease."

Health Risk Of Loneliness Has Physiological Basis

Do you sometimes find yourself lonely? If you did not know, loneliness can increase the risk of premature death by 14% in older adults, according to a study published Monday that posits a physiological basis for the phenomenon.

The dangers of social isolation have long been known but its effects on the body have not been well understood, the researchers said in the work published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences/PNAS.
A lonely Person Far From Everybody
A lonely Person Far From Everybody
Led by University of Chicago psychologist John Cacioppo, the research team had previously identified a link between solitude and both a heightened expression of genes involved in inflammation and a diminution in the activity of other genes that play a role in the body's antiviral responses.

The result is a weakened immune systems that makes a person who lives alone more vulnerable to illness.

In their latest research, the researchers looked at leukocytes, white blood cells that the immune system uses to protect against bacteria and viruses.

They found the same shift in genetic expression in the white blood cells of people who lived alone and in social isolation.

They also found that loneliness predicted the gene behaviour a year or more in advance – and conversely that gene expression predicted loneliness measured a year or more later.

"Leukocyte gene expression and loneliness appear to have a reciprocal relationship, suggesting that each can help propagate the other over time," the researchers said.

"These results were specific to loneliness and could not be explained by depression, stress or social support," they said.

The investigators then studied rhesus macaques, a highly social primate, and found a similar cellular process linked to their social experience.

"Lonely-like" monkeys had increased gene expression involved in inflammation and less gene expression in antiviral defences.

They were also found to have higher levels of noreprinephrine, a "fight-or-flight" neurotransmitter that stimulates the production of immature monocytes, a white blood cell with high inflammation/low antiviral defence gene expression.

"Both lonely humans and 'lonely like' monkeys showed higher levels of monocytes in their blood," the researchers said.

Other studies showed that the increased production of immature monocytes was amplifying the high inflammation/low antiviral effect in the pool of white blood cells.

"The 'danger signals' activated in the brain by loneliness ultimately affect the production of white blood cells," they said.

"The resulting shift in monocyte output may both propagate loneliness and contribute to its associated health risks."

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Catholic Church Sees A Miracle In 'Bleeding' Communion Wafer

A Utah Catholic church recently became the site of what some are calling a miracle after a communion wafer placed in water appeared to bleed.

Meant to symbolize the flesh of Christ, the wafer--also called a host--was placed in a glass of water near the altar at St. Francis Xavier Church in Kearns after a young parishioner returned it to the priest during communion.

The priest reportedly then placed the wafer into the water, expecting it to dissolve in just a few minutes. But that's not what happened.

Instead, the wafer remained intact for several days. What's more, it turned a deep blood red.

News of the apparent miracle sent shockwaves through the church community and devotees began to pack into St. Francis Xavier's to see the host on display.

Word also spread to the Salt Lake City Diocese, where a five-person committee was formed to investigate the potential miracle, reports KSTU.

Monsignor M. Francis Mannion issued the following statement:

"Recently, reports of a bleeding host at St. Francis Xavier Church in Kearns have been circulating within the diocese. Monsignor Colin F. Bircumshaw, Diocesan Administrator, has appointed an ad hoc committee of individuals with various backgrounds to investigate the matter.

"The work of the committee is now underway. The results will be made public.

"The host is now in the custody of the Diocesan Administrator. Contrary to rumor, there are NO current plans for public exposition or adoration."

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People Who Post Inspirational Quotes ‘Have Lower Levels Of Intelligence’, Study Finds

Do you have a tendency of posting inspirational quotes on social networks? We all know people who like to share words of wisdom on Instagram and Facebook. Not theirs of course – they found it on Google and the picture just looked pretty.

Well, the next time one of them pops up on your timeline, you can comfort yourself in the knowledge that people who share inspirational quotes tend to be less intelligent.
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(Picture: Someecards.com)
A study, entitled ‘On the reception and detection of pseudo-profound bulls***t’ found that people who are more receptive to such quotes get lower scores in cognitive tests.

They are also more likely to believe in the paranormal and conspiracy theories, the study claims.

Researchers asked 845 volunteers to evaluate a series of ‘inspirational’ statements and say how profound they thought they were and whether they agreed with them.

Participants were then asked to perform a series of cognitive tests.


Writing in the journal, Judgment and Decision Making, lead researcher Gordon Pennycook, a cognitive psychologist at the University of Waterloo, Ontario, said: ‘Although bulls**t is common in everyday life and has attracted attention from philosophers, its reception – critical or ingenuous – has not, to our knowledge, been subject to empirical investigation.

‘We focus on pseudo-profound bulls**t, which consists of seemingly impressive assertions that are presented as true and meaningful but are actually vacuous.’

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Our results support the idea that some people are more receptive to this type of bulls**t,’ he continued, concluding: ‘Those more receptive to bulls**t are less reflective, lower in cognitive ability – numeracy, verbal and fluid intelligence), are more prone to ontological confusions and conspiratorial ideation, are more likely to hold religious and paranormal beliefs, and are more likely to endorse complementary and alternative medicine.’

The study used real-world examples, some taken from Deepak Chopra’s Twitter feed – Chopra has, the researchers explain, ‘been accused of furthering “woo-woo nonsense”’ in the past.
It didn’t go down well.

But, as they say, ‘rise above the storm and you’ll find the sunshine’. Right?


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Reasons Some Church Members Are Mean

To be honest, I’ve been blessed. In all the churches where I’ve attended as a member, most of the people I have met have been great people. During my many adventurous visits there were times, though, I have encountered church members who were downright mean.

Based on our Lawless Group interviews and surveys over the years, here are some of the reasons church members can be mean:
“Church members are mean because the church allows them to be that way.”
“Church members are mean because the church allows them to be that way.”

1. All church members are still people. That’s not an excuse for meanness, though; it’s just an admission of reality. Even saved people sometimes act like sinners when the right button gets pushed.


2. Some are nonbelievers. Even Jesus had one in His immediate group of 12 who was never a believer, and I doubt our churches will do better than Jesus did. Lost people will always act like lost people eventually—even when they don’t think they’re lost.

3. Many are undiscipled. Too many churches bring people into the local congregation, but then do nothing to disciple them. The new believers remain babies in Christ, even when they’ve been in the church for years. Usually, they whine a lot.

4. Some are carrying burdens alone. Often, we don’t know what burdens others bear because we choose to carry our own pain alone. The father who can’t find a job … the parents whose child has been arrested … the teen whose parents have just split up … the faithful member who is being abused … sometimes the anguish of life weighs so heavy on us that our tempers are short and our words are volatile.

5. Some were given authority far too early.When our churches give positions to those who haven’t yet grown (and many churches do that, granting positions on the basis of years in the church rather than on maturity in the faith), we shouldn’t be surprised when they fight to protect their toys. That’s what kids do.

6. Some are living in sin. For anyone who is a true believer, the conviction of sin cuts deeply—but that doesn’t always result in immediate repentance. Church members who remain in their sin for any length of time sometimes turn their conviction on others. Judging somebody else at least briefly turns their attention from their own sin.

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Thursday, 10 December 2015

Sadistic Christian Psychotherapist Who Breastfed Her Clients ‘Mummy Milk’ Jailed For Four Years

Can you imagine a "born again adult Christian", suckling a 63 year old lady's breasts? Yes it happened when a Christian cult leader and psychotherapist forced her clients to suckle her breast for ‘mummy milk’.

Vanessa Clark, 63, has been jailed for four years for the ‘unusual and troubling’ offences which happened between 1996 and 2001.
The assaults were carried out solely on women with mental illness and saw Clark regressing them back to infancy during sessions in her flat.

The sessions, which cost stupefied clients thousands of pounds, featured ‘skin to skin’ contact – a method she claimed had been approved by a priest who had long since died – as well as breastfeeding.

Prosecutor Henry James told Oxford Crown Court about one case in 1996 when one victim was recommended to Clark ‘through a church connection’.

He explained: ‘This amounted to an intense and personal series of sessions in which the victim was required to regress back to her childhood.

‘Her hands and legs became fidgety and she was told that this was her body “trying to get mother to lactate”.
‘Ms Clarke then asked her client, “Does baby want some milk?” She then guided her victim towards her breasts who took them into her mouth.’

She ‘massaged’ a second woman until the victim became aroused, before telling her this was her ‘inner baby’ coming out and she ‘needed it’.
The white-haired psychotherapist gave her clients milk from her breast (Picture: INS)
The white-haired psychotherapist gave her clients milk from her breast (Picture: INS)
Another occasion saw the same victim being asked to revert back to this childhood state, before Clark took off her top and said: ‘Have some mummy milk.’


The victim was also encouraged to imagine Biblical imagery in the form of the story of Adam and Eve before Clark massaged the woman’s back and undid her bra.

Mr James said: ‘Ms Clark would then massage the woman’s foot before pushing her own foot into the victims groin. Clark would then press her own groin against the victim when she greeted her.’

Clark, of New Yatt Road in New Yatt, Oxon., admitted her crimes in a letter to her female partner which was read out to the court.

It read: ‘I was grooming them to get power over them. I set out to get under their skin so they would become fixated on me.

‘I would breastfeed my clients and on one occasion took off my top before [the victim] consented, and told her it was a special thing I would do only for her.

‘It was entirely deceptive and manipulative. I made them them envision extremely violent visualisations of torture.

‘When [the victim] wanted to stop I insisted on going on. I gave no thought to her or her vulnerability. I subjected her to my sadistic desires.

‘I exerted great will and domination over her.’

Clark’s crimes were exposed when her partner, who had been with her for seven years, became concerned about Clark’s talk of rape, torture and murder and contacted one of her clients.

Clients were referred to Clark by the leader of a Christian cult, which she had once been the leader of herself. Little is known about the cult or how many people belonged to it.

Summing up, Judge Ian Pringle said: ‘You have for many years practised as a psychotherapist. It is clear from the letters I have read that for many people you have provided a valuable service…

‘I have read much about you, and a doctor has come to the conclusion that you suffer from a personality disorder. As a result you lack empathy and it makes you manipulative.’

Clark admitted to six counts of indecent assault. As well as beginning her prison sentence, she has been made subject to a Sexual Harm Prevention Order and was placed on the sex offenders’ register for the rest of her life.
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10 Random Things To Know About Pastors—Or At Least This One

Have you ever wondered what a pastor is? We often get the wrong idea about the men of God. I’ve well-read pastors are often misunderstood particularly by people who haven’t known a pastor personally. It’s surely a unique occupation.

It is not completely abnormal for a pastor to be misunderstood.
Bishop TD Jakes
Bishop TD Jakes

Here are 10 random things to know about pastors.

These are true for me, but I suspect they may be for your pastor too.

The temptations you face—They face. They are not immune to temptation. They are human. You shouldn’t be surprised when they make mistakes. They need lots of grace. They should be held accountable, but ultimately they are accountable to God—just as you are.

The larger the church gets—the less they know about anything. But this can be true of any church size where other people are empowered to lead. Ask them anything. They may or may not have an answer. Sometimes, however, you save both of your time if you email the staff or volunteer leader more likely to know—but they can always forward an email or your questions.

The better the message—the longer it takes for them prepare it. There are rare exceptions to this for many pastors. If they are going to have a descent message they will have to take time away from other responsibilities to prepare. This could mean they are not everywhere you hoped they would be.

Even though they are teaching it—they may not yet have mastered it. Hopefully they are working on it, but they teach the whole counsel of God—the Bible—and they try to remain a work in progress in many areas of it.

They get nervous every time they start to preach—sometimes sick to their stomach nervous. If you didn’t notice—well, glad they always try to get better at covering. But as a member of the church you do them a tremendous blessing if you whisper a prayer as they step up to preach.

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